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Are you after the illusion, or the real thing???

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah

If we ponder over our lives and ourselves, we will find that more often than not we take a situation for what it appears to be without bothering to look deeper. This applies in all aspects of life. For example, if someone presented us with two gifts to choose from, one wrapped in a beautiful gift wrap and big in size, and the other a small box wrapped in newspaper. We'd automatically go for the big one. It turns out to be a dustbin, and the other one happened to be a diamond ring. We are then left with nothing but regret.

It is our nature to make a decision based on the exterior or outward appearance of a thing or even a situation, even though time and time again we see that there is a deeper side to life.

The point of my mentioning this is that we behave in the same manner when it comes to the main objective behind our creation, "preparation for aakhirah". We are told over and over again about the transitory nature of this world and all it contains. Yet we fall for the trap repeatedly and give preference to the glitter and glamour of the world, and in the interim we neglect and forsake the eternal luxuries of the hereafter. We strive for the fleeting success of this world and forsake the eternal success of the hereafter. We hanker after the wealth of this world and forsake the endless treasures of Jannah. We live to enjoy life in this world and cause eternal distress for ourselves in the Aakhirah.

My Sheikh Hazrat Maulana Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saahib (daamat barakaatuhum) says in a couplet:

Oh heart do not incline towards the embellishments of this world,
It is a snake in disguise, it will bite you.

Allah has made the right path look difficult from the outside, but once a person treads on it, he will never want to set foot on any other way. The road to Jannah seems long and hard, while the road that seems easy and enjoyable takes a person directly to Jahannam.

Rasulullaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) states in a hadeeth that Jannah is hidden behind the veil of difficulties, while Jahannam is veiled behind fulfillment of one's desires.

So what we see is not actually what we get. Let us look beneath the surface and not be fooled by appearance.

I leave you with the words of Maulana Rumi (rahmatullaahi alayh):

Allah made the illusion look real,
and the real an illusion.

He concealed the sea,
and made the foam visible,

the wind invisible,
and the dust manifest.

you see the dust whirling,
but how can the dust rise by itself?

you see the foam,
but not the ocean.

invoke Him with deeds, not words;
for deeds are real and will save you in the infinite-life.

-Rumi, "Mathnawi"

NOTE: Read the entry The Green Leaf and The Juicy Grape for an intersting anecdote relating to the above content.

» posted by Mahd-ul-Huda on 13th February 2010 - 0 comments

I get knocked down, but I get up again!

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah

It's been a long time since i shared something with you (the reader). My blog has never left my mind, but unfortunately I have been pre-occupied with something or the other during the past few months. There is so much in my heart and mind to share with you that as I sit in front of my pc, I don't know where to begin.

Life is is a learning experience.
I read something nice a couple of days ago.

The secret to success is the ability to make RIGHT DECISIONS. But in order to make them you require EXPERIENCE, and in order to get experience, you need to make the wrong decisions.

Interesting. Often we are not ready to forgive ourselves when we stumble or fall. But how can we expect Allah's forgiveness, when we are not prepared to forgive ourselves?

Often we slip up somewhere, and don't rectify the mistake immediately. As a result that small mistake gradually turns into one of life's biggest blunders. Ever felt that way? Well if you do, don't despair. Because Allah's forgiveness and mercy is immense. Allah will help us get over that huge blunder too. But for that, we need to first get a grip and realise that what we've done is forgiveable. Because no sin or mistake is too grave for Allah to forgive. Accept that you were wrong, but the fact that you wronged doesn't mean that you continue with that wrong just because you feel you cannot be forgiven. Often Shaytaan puts us in this deception. He makes us think there is no hope for us. "You will never make it. You have gone too far out. So might as well just stick with it. No point trying to rectify your wrong, coz you'll never succeed." Do these words sound familiar?

Or he will say to you, "You keep making tawbah but you break it each time. You never repent sincerely. So why bother."

Allah has said in a Hadeeth-e-Qudsi to the effect that if my servant breaks his tawba several times, and comes back to me repenting sincerly, I will still accept his repentence.

Don't succumb to this evil ploy of Shaytaan. Fight him and believe in your ability to reach your goal and be the pious, obedient slave you wish to be and ought to be. At such a time, when you feel low and lose belief in yourself and your courage, kneel before Allah and ask Him for strength. For when we have Allah we are strong, without Allah we are weak.

A buzrug says:
If you are unable to wrestle down the brave Nafs (ego/carnal desires that instigate you towards sin), it doesn't mean you should sit back and accept defeat. This wrestling match between your Nafs and yourself is a life-long one. At times your nafs will overpower you and at others you will overpower it. Even if you are unsuccessful your entire life, if you are an Aashiq of Allah, you should never stop trying. Always keep this relationship of love with Allah intact. Even it breaks (due to your disobedience) a hundred times, reconcile with Allah a hundred times.

My Sheikh Hazrat Maulana Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saahib (Daamat Barakaatuhum) says beautifully in a poem:
Even if you have to bear a thousand griefs in this road of Taqwa, A true Aashiq will persevere and continue to bear the pain.

A few tears of sincere repentence are enough to wash away months, and even years of shaytaan's hard work. Cry before your Creator and cleanse yourself, because what soap is to the body, tears are to the soul. Even the heavens are moved by the tears and sighs of a repentant sinner.

"A saint is not one who never fails, it is one who gets up and goes on everytime he fails."

O Allah make Your love more beloved to me than myself, my family, and cold water. O Allah make me from amongst those who love you and those whom you love. Ameen

» posted by Mahd-ul-Huda on 3rd February 2010 - 0 comments

LOST IDENTITY???

When I was younger people on occasion asked my mother if she had picked the wrong baby from the hospital. My round chubby face, light plain skin, blushed cheeks, silky hair and the eyes – kind of oriental eyes, the way Chinese eyes are. When I got older into my teens and still now people question if I am Arabic. Yet I didn’t know what it was that could make me seem or look that way. There came a point where I questioned what my identity was?

When people look at you, what is it that you want them to see?
What do you consider your identity to be?
Your Religion? Your Culture? Your Gender? Your Nationality?
Or is it Your Ethnicity? Your Occupation? Your Colour? Your Personality?
Or then again it could be Your Looks? Your School? And Your Family?
And if all, which one is first and which one last, finally?

At some points I found a deep connection and unity with others who had similar identities to mine. Yet I had no idea what a real identity was, can it be more than one thing or does it have to be just one thing? At other times I felt a distance and disconnection with other people’s identities. I speculated if my inability to define my identity was having a negative effect on my life. As I mentored Muslim youths, some of these youths appeared to have similar feelings and views to mine.

Fixed Between Two Cultures!

I instituted that many ‘ethnic minorities’ established themselves fixed between two different types of cultures, usually the British culture and another culture of their own. Perhaps this was because of the different food, different clothes, different celebrations, different ways of speaking (different language), different attitudes, different motivations etc. Is this an abnormal thing or normal?

The place I have been born and brought up in has always been a mixed place with different ethnic groups, different people of colour, different religions and people with different social factors. Although oddly and usually at the same time, the people who reflect your identity will be those you are more likely to be with, e.g. at school I always see the same ethnic groups huddled together. This can be outside shops, on the streets generally, your work place or at your school/college/university.
Your friends are more probable to have the same or similar identity to your own.

I looked for a very long time and frequently found myself speculating with whom I am and how others portray themselves to be. So I was determined to talk to my mentees on what they thought or believed their identity to be?

Under Which Category Are You? – ‘Are You below Average?’

Some of them didn’t seem to know who they really were or in what sort of position and category they belonged to be. Some said that they felt as though they were viewed as being ‘below average’. So I asked them to tell me what comes to their mind when I say the word ‘identity’. These were the words they had listed for me: Religion, Personality, Ethnicity, Culture, Family, Nationality, Occupation, Gender, School, Colour, Country, Friends and Looks. I was proud of what they listed for me, especially because they had realised and were aware that they should know their identity and were interested to go thinking and questioning on it.

When I looked at those words, I thought to myself, ‘how could all of these be put into one word - identity’. Could identity be just one thing or could it be lots of things? My next step was to try and find out which one of these words from their list they thought was first in their identity and which one last. So I asked them to write down from the most important to the least important with a reason on why they thought that.

Since most of them already found themselves fixed between two types of cultures they suggested that culture could not be a fraction of the highest part of identity. So they put that aside as being the highest part of their identity.
They tried to establish nationality which is British most of them but not all. Most of them questioned if they were actually British or other? Just because of being born and raised in a Western place or having to inherit the Western nationality, did that mean their ways have to be traditional western too? They claimed that they didn’t feel British nor did they feel that they belonged under the British nationality. This was put aside too.
Ethnicity - this was a difficult one. Some of them didn’t know what to say about it. Some thought that ethnicity had the same views of culture that we had talked about previously. I found that the meaning of ethnicity is ‘where someone belongs to a group that shares the same characteristics, such as country of origin, language, religion, ancestry and culture. Therefore ethnicity is a matter of biological and historical fact and is not changed by the culture in which a person grows up’. When I mentioned this definition it put complexity into their ethnicity. Therefore they found it anomalous to put ethnicity as a first thing on their identity. Yet it is still part of the identity.

I found it odd on why some of them had put ‘school’ and ‘friends’ down as being part of identity. When I asked why this was the reply: “That’s because I spend more of my proper day time at school than anywhere else and because friends are part of school, it kind of puts the two together”. When I asked the same about family, this was the reply: “Well I wouldn’t put family as the highest part of my identity; even though they have similarities with my identity…my time spent with them is less, sometimes not at all”. I found that there were mostly personal reasons on why ‘family’ wasn’t put as the first thing on their identity list.

When it came to ‘colour and looks’ many of the youths had various opinions. Some said that it was highly important and when someone looks at you they always look at you by your skin colour or the way you look. One of the boys said this: “I know colour is an important thing in people’s minds, yet people won’t show it because they are afraid of racial offenses. But come on…everyone probably has a racial side to themselves where they might think negatively or positively towards someone’s skin colour…it’s either in conscious or unconscious, but it’s still there!” I asked a girl on why she thought that colour was important as she agreed, this was her reply: “Just from experience, like when filling out forms for jobs and that or other forms for like driving lessons or for a passport or whatever…they always ask you for your ethnicity, and most likely when they ask you this they are going to be wanting to know your colour at the same time, you get me. Like if I go and tick a box on a forum saying that my ethnicity is African-Caribbean…obviousl y they are going know that I’m black or if I go ticking a box saying that I’m Pakistani then they are going to know that I’m brown”. Even though they all found that colour was important, they didn’t think it was important enough to be put as the highest form of identity because they found that it was just a social factor, not something inside them.

Gender also had its resemblance; all of them thought it was important just as colour is important. However some of them thought that gender isn’t as important as it used to be in the old times. I asked why and this was the reply: “Gender was more important back in the days, same with age really…like with women, they weren’t really allowed jobs, not proper jobs anyway, and most of them were just housewives. Plus even in schools girls and boys had separate subjects taught to them, like the males were more likely to go on and do wood work (D.T) or sports or I.T, like technical stuff. And the females went and did textiles, like sewing and that or they learnt about doing the washing up…actually this still happens in today’s world, in this school. But there is some equality now…mostly because the law has changed in the past decade”.

Finally we came to our final identity part – Religion. All of them had told me that religion was definitely part of their identity and I could see certainty in all of their eyes. I asked why they were so sure that religion was part of their identity. No one said anything. Instead most of them lost eye contact with me and looked away or just stared at the ground or fiddled with their hands. I paused for a while thinking that maybe they need to think and that I needed to give them some space. After a minute or two I asked again and one of the girls said: “I don’t know…just because it’s a way of living init”. At this point I could tell that they had lots of opinions and views in their mind but yet none of them were telling me clearly. Were them embarrassed, uncomfortable or shy of their views?

Consequently I was pushed to pick on one of them. When I asked one of the girls who kept making eye contact with me on why she thought that religion was surely part of the identity, this was her reply after a short while: “To me…well…religion is just a way of living. Islam is like ermm all around. Like it’s in my heart and mind, everything that is done is done so in an Islamic way”. I asked her to expand a little bit more on how everything is done accordingly to Islam. She replied with this: “Like when you eat, you eat the way Islam has told you to eat, when you go to sleep, when you wake up, when you leave the house, when you enter the house, when you look in the mirror, when you leave for a journey…” One of the boys stopped her from talking and carried it on for her. “Yeah yeah, like just everything you do is done the way Islam tells you to do it init. Like even walking up the stairs and coming down the stairs we gotta say a prayer, before drinking water we recite a small prayer…even when sneezing or yawning…there are many thing. So Islam is like part of everyday life and like she just said it’s in the heart and mind. And if it’s like that then it can’t be taken out no matter what. It’s like tattooed to the body, you get me!”

Once the two of them had given their views on why religion was 100% part of the identity, more of them had started to include their views into it. At this point I felt that they felt comforted by having this discussion, like most of them had so many views in their mind but it was blinded out because no one had asked them or talked about religion with them. After we had discussed the importance of religion and why it was put as their identity I asked why some of them looked like they were unwilling to answer when I had brought up the questions on religion, this is what one of the boy said without hesitation: “You know like this world…it pulls you down sometimes, especially on who you are. Like I’m Muslim but like from what the media has injected into everyone’s mind these days makes me feel bad for who I am…a little”. I found that most of them had the same feelings and views and they had said that society has changed over time. Before I spoke one of the girls said this: “Just because society and the world has changed and just because the media portrays Muslims as bad most of the time, that doesn’t mean that Islam has changed and that we got to go believing in the crap that the media puts out to us…stupidly people go looking at Muslims instead of looking at Islam! Really” The other members were quiet surprised with what this girl had just said, and so was I quiet surprised honestly. Although most of all I was proud of them all and had got them thinking about their identity, including religion. I suggested that some of them needed time and lots of thinking to do. So I left it to that.

What your identity holds first?

Two days later I met up with the group again and asked the final question on what they supposed that their identity held first, all of them replied with ‘religion’ and ‘Islam’. Some of them even said that nothing else was held in their identity and it was just Islam!

We had our final discussion on identity and Islam and there were many views yet to come from these youths so I let them discuss and talk about it more. All of them had clearly stated that everything else in their identity had some conflicts and splits. However Islam united them all together and there weren’t any conflicts to be seen.

“Do not divided among yourselves. And remember Allah's favor on you, for you were enemies and He joined your hearts together, so that by His Grace, you became brethren (in Islamic Faith), and you were on the brink of a Pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus Allah makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.,) clear to you, that you may be guided."

"And be not as those who divided and differed among themselves after the clear proofs had come to them. It is they for whom there is an awful torment."
(Surah Aal-Imran, Verse 103 and 105)

Written By Neelam Ahmed

"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

» posted by Mahd-ul-Huda on 3rd February 2010 - 0 comments